What Brought Me Here

I spent many years disembodied, overworking, and disconnected from my emotions as a survival strategy. It kept me safe for many years. And then it started to get in the way of what I wanted to do, how I wanted to be, and how I wanted to connect with those around me. I could feel it holding me down, holding me back, despite it looking on the surface like I was achieving a lot. I started to experience these strategies as a barrier rather than something that was serving me. And it was excruciating - starting to thaw out, feel my feelings, say no, express my needs and allow myself to be held. And sometimes, it still is.

I hold so much compassion for those who are on their own journey with this, who similarly had to learn how to protect themselves and now want something different for themselves and their life. I’m committed to supporting those who are interested in discovering the softer parts of themselves, their joy, their sensory pleasures, and whatever other forms of nourishment they can give themselves and learn to receive from others. This is how we heal. 

Qualifications & Lived Experience

My counselling and sexology work is informed by my training in embodied counselling, mind-body coaching and process-oriented therapy approaches, as well as sexological bodywork, somatic sex education and the Wheel of Consent®.

I live and work on the unceded lands of the Wurundjeri people (Melbourne, Australia) and am available for sessions in-person and online worldwide. I’m white, queer, non-binary (they/them) and neurodivergent and I bring an awareness of power, identity, and lived experience into the way I hold space. 

I have over ten years lived experience in ethical non-monogamy, kink & BDSM, and adult industry work, and am particularly committed to working with these communities as well as with LGBTIQA+ people. Indeed, most of my group offerings are for queer people as I believe that embodiment and sex education are important resources for our community, and notably, many of these teachings have emerged from distinctly queer lineages (in the West). My commitment is to offering spaces that are grounded, curious, and consent-led, within my own communities and beyond.

I hold professional membership with IICT (International Institute for Complementary Therapists) and SSEAA (Somatic Sex Educators Association of Australasia) and receive ongoing supervision and professional development to ensure my work is ethical, effective and affirming.

If what I’ve shared resonates, you’re welcome to book a free initial call to explore whether this work is a good fit for you.